The best way to fight working parent guilt is to make a plan. Many moms/dads that stay at home are so overwhelmed that even they struggle to spend quality time with their children. Stop comparing.
Make a plan to do the following:
- Plan one on one time every week with each child individually.
- Each evening, ask your children what was the best and worst parts of their day. Spend time understanding what is going on in their worlds. Each will have unique challenges and life events.
- Create ‘anchor’ events. These are memorable outings that create memories that they will remember for years to come. Good examples are museums, boat rides or attending musical or sporting events.
- Enjoy “theme night dinners” representing other countries like Thailand, China, Brazil, Japan, and Chile. Talk about characteristics of the country, the language they speak, special foods and places in the country.
- Have a Story Time. Read a story that your child loves (good for all ages – don’t let them fool you).
- Go outside and play catch, basketball, or frisbee. Enjoy fun physical activities together.
In order to combat working parent guilt, regularly create fun things to do with your children. Become an active part of their life. Find ways to enjoy your time together and make incredible memories. Your unfailing love and acceptance is what they desperately need from you and they can certainly get that even if you have a busy schedule.
Cut yourself some slack. Focus on what you CAN do and what you CAN provide. Beating yourself up mentally won’t help you or the kids.
by Bethany Williams