Think about ‘random acts of kindness’, only translate it into random positive comments. Getting others to collaborate with you and achieve more at work will require positive affirmation. It will require that you positively recognize others’ contribution verbally. I suggest you do this out loud, often and in front of others. It doesn’t matter if the person you are speaking about is there or not. It will get back to them. Believe it or not, even positive information does travel (just not near as fast as negative information). It may take anywhere from a week to a month for a positive statement to float back to the person you were talking about. A negative comment makes its way back in less than 2 business days. So be wary, that one can come back to bite you.
It is not a good idea to cut others down, even in jest. If you can build others up, it will pay back in untold benefits. I also suggest you touch base with people even when you don’t need something from them. When you only call on someone when you need something, you quickly move to the bottom of their call back list. Call them simply to check on their last vacation, or how their latest project is going. Make sure that you commend them for their contributions and work as it arises. If you can spot their strengths, bring those out in the conversation. Example: I knew that you would do well with X project, you are a great communicator and have a special way with accommodating difficult situations.
Sometimes, employees don’t recognize their own strengths. We had someone on our team that was frustrated with leadership and really looking for a way off the team. Every time I would run into him, I would comment on his strengths. He was an amazingly detailed person. He could put together detailed spread sheets of task oriented initiatives and track them from a very high level down to the minutest detail of data. He organized a document that was brilliantly done. He enjoyed being in the detail and ensuring that others accomplished tasks that he could then organize into a solution for the entire company. He was great at what he did. His boss, however, didn’t know how to merge his skills set into the necessary tasks for the team. He did find a position in the company to be content. Always recognize the positive in everyone.
These random positive comments will build up your co-workers, build a more collaborative environment and increase your satisfaction at work. You’ll be amazed by the results.
by Bethany Williams