You have a lot of responsibilities as a single parent and the stress weighs on you like 10,000 pounds on your back. Here is a simple survival guide to help you maneuver the road that you are on.
1) Find a Hobby to Enjoy
If you can let off some steam and enjoy an activity, you will learn to de-stress yourself. You get busy and you may have left your hobby or sport of choice behind. Don’t starve yourself of all fun and relaxation. You need to be able to de-stress and relax to be able to handle the immense responsibilities that you have. Working single parents are usually guilty of denying themselves any free time. We feel guilty and we forget to take care of ourselves. You will be a better single parent if you remember to take care of yourself.
2) Take a Night Off
It is OK to get a babysitter to spend an evening with a friend. You need mental time off. You cannot spend every waking moment either parenting or working. The body was made to work, then relax. You have a long road ahead of you. Like running a marathon, you cannot expend all of your energy in the first 5 miles. Save some energy for the future (and your children’s teenage years – you will need it).
3) Finding Energy and Battery Power
You are the solution to your own dilemma. We have to try to learn to ‘pick ourselves up’. The easiest way to do this is to tap into your hidden ‘battery power’. Everyone has something that they do that energizes them. You have a gift, that when that gift is used, you will feel energized and excited. If you learn this gift well, you can ‘tap’ into it. It will provide energy to parent, work, and achieve all that you need to achieve. For me, it is encouraging and helping others. When I’m feeling tired and stressed, I dial up mentees and encourage them. Encouraging them then gives me the strength to ‘power up’ and helps to give me energy to handle the kids, the job, the cooking, and all that we need to accomplish. Speaking to groups is another way that I ‘power up’. I get a ‘charge’ out of presenting. It is something that I was born to do. It is my battery power. Find your battery power and charge yourself up.
4) Get Physical
You have a lot to achieve. It will take someone in good health to do it. Get moving. Start walking or jogging three times a week. Go to the batting cages. Do something physical that you enjoy doing. You need to be healthy to be there for your child (children). He/she (they) need you. Establish a get healthy routine that transforms your life for the better.
Find at least one thing on this list to immediately implement. Slowly work to improve the road that you are traveling.
by Bethany Williams