She did it again, she made popcorn at 2PM and the smell is radiating into your office and affecting your concentration. What ticks you off at work? Most of us spend more time with our co-workers than we spend with our family. Isn’t that amazing? We spend more time with people that we probably had no choice in their selection than with our spouses that we chose to marry. If the stats on marriage hold true, over 50% of marriages end in divorce. If over ½ of our marriages that we selected are ending, imagine how difficult it is for a variety of cultures, beliefs, races, religions, and men and women to come together and not irritate each other. It’s going to happen. What can you do to keep it from bothering you?
- Live and let live. Sometimes you are going to have to let it go. It isn’t really that important and, in our stressful work lives we sometimes make a mountain out of a mole hill. Try to ignore the irritant.
- Create an ability to vent in constructive ways. Route the negative energy that you feel into a positive source. If you are angry at the office, stop by the batting cages on the way home. A little exercise may make you feel better. For me, I blog every time I’m upset. You will find blogs that I’ve written on teamwork, people that say ‘That’s not my job’, information hoarding, gossiping, negative attitudes, unproductive employees, and passive aggressive behavior. Those are the things that upset me the most at work. Find a constructive way to vent your anger. Complaining about the things that bother you won’t be good for your brand, and won’t solve the dilemma.
- Think of the positive things. The best way to overcome negative attitudes and thinking is to focus on the things at work that don’t tick you off. Spend time thinking about the people and the things that you like. If you can wipe the negative thoughts from your mind and focus on the positive things that are happening at work, you will notice your attitude will shift. The negative little irritants will seem less irritating. It will be a blissful discovery.
Let me know how it turns out.
by Bethany Williams